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Preparing for Separation

February 10, 2016 By Evan Koslow

I’ve written about the legal issues you should consider when preparing to separate from your significant other, and this post will concentrate on how to coordinate your affairs and look out for your interests whether or not you’re the one petitioning for divorce.

Here are some top tips if you’re considering divorce or preparing for that eventuality:

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Filed Under: prenuptial agreement, Uncategorized Tagged With: divorce, finances, prenuptial agreement, separation

Custody: Seeing The End Game

January 13, 2016 By Evan Koslow

Two things I see most often from my clients in custody related matters: 1. focusing on what’s happening RIGHT NOW and 2. dwelling on the negative actions by the other parent. If you’ve been in a custody battle, perhaps you have said one of these complaints:

“the kids didn’t call before bedtime when they are with the other parent”

“the other parent is not being flexible with the schedule for the children”

“the other parent is making all of the decisions regarding the children, and not communicating properly (either timely or at all)” and on and on.

In these instances, my advice is: give your ex enough rope to hang themselves. Combative exes are their own worst enemies. Give them the opportunity to hurt their own cause, and they will always take it.

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Filed Under: custody, Uncategorized Tagged With: co-parenting, custody, divorce, separation

Do’s and Don’ts for a Cheap Divorce

December 11, 2015 By Evan Koslow

moneyThe cost of a divorce/custody matter is entirely based on how reasonable, fair and honest the couple is with each other. If both parties can communicate calmly, not lie about assets or income and not fight about inconsequential things, I can do a divorce for $1,500 and have it finalized in a matter of weeks. Absent such equanimity -and it’s safe to say most divorces are – couples typically spend thousands of dollars and months of legal wrangling to go their separate ways. That’s why during this emotionally tense and often acrimonious life event, it pays to stay calm and be candid about finances.

Here are some key things you can do to make the divorce process easy and affordable for you:

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Filed Under: Divorce, Uncategorized Tagged With: cost, divorce, mediation, therapy

How to Deal With Abuse

December 8, 2015 By Evan Koslow

sittingAbuse in marriage

Divorce is always difficult, and not just on those directly involved, but also to family, friends, and all aspects of life. Add abuse to the situation and it becomes even more difficult.

Recognizing and getting out of the nightmare takes tremendous courage. Filing for separation or divorce is a heroic feat for an abused spouse, as the risk of retaliation is great. Typically intimidation and violence escalates. Sometimes a protective order is needed. If there are kids involved, it can become really ugly, especially when the abuser sees the kids as an entitlement.

Then there’s the task of tediously dividing everything acquired during the marriage. A daunting task even for level-headed people. It demands transparency, compromise, integrity and restraint. Not qualities you find in an abuser. When a marriage is abusive, the power balance is so skewed that it may not be safe or productive to even have the couple in the same room, let alone discuss a compromise.

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Filed Under: domestic violence, Uncategorized Tagged With: abuse, court, domestic violence, finances

Should My Child Testify In Court Regarding Custody?

November 16, 2015 By Evan Koslow

orphanWhen parents of minor children separate, it is difficult on everyone, especially children. When it comes to deciding custody, some parents want their children to testify in court. This can cause greater strain on the child’s well-being.

Before deciding to have your child or children testify in court, it’s important to know that the court system provides multiple services such as a custody evaluator (a license social worker who meets with the parties, the children, visits the homes, if in the county where the case is being held and provides the court with a report and recommendation). There is no charge for this service. The Court can also appoint a best interest attorney and/or privilege attorney (an attorney who advocates on behalf of what he or she believes is in the best interest of the children). The parties generally divide the cost equally or pro-rate their incomes for a best interest attorney or privilege attorney. There are factors the court considers when determining whether a case warrants either attorney. Best Interest attorneys can become very expensive.

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Filed Under: Divorce, Uncategorized Tagged With: best interest attorney, court, custody, custody evaluator

Raising Children After Separating

November 10, 2015 By Evan Koslow

raisingchildNow that the dust has settled and you are officially no longer with the other parent, you should begin to plan how you can have a good partnership raising your child or children with the other parent in a way that benefits all parties involved, especially your children.

Here are 4 tips for raising children after separating:

1. Exhibit active listening, empathy, and patience when communicating with the other parent and your children.

This will give your children the chance to maintain some control. When parents’ divorce, children often feel out of control because they didn’t have a say or any options in the decision to divorce. It is important to stabilize your children first and make sure they feel they are truly loved and valuable members of your family. As such, any actions by you that enables them to feel understood and in control will help the children adjust to this new beginning. It will be beneficial for the child’s growth, development, and well-being.

2. Go to therapy separately and together.

You are all going through a very difficult time, one that can be especially challenging to manage on your own. Counseling can help you recognize the patterns in your life that made you gravitate to the other parent in the first place. This will help you understand and work to ensure that you don’t repeat those relationship patterns again. Separation is like a death and it must be both understood and grieved. I have a handful of great therapists in the Annapolis area. Each one of them provides a different insight and way of helping individuals through this difficult transition.

3. Act like an adult.

Separating from the other parent of your children can send otherwise perfectly calm, rational adults into fits of irrational, immature, childish behavior. This is the time your children need you to truly be an adult. Do not burden your children with your own fears and negative emotions towards the other parent and do not criticize the other parent. Your children identifies with both of his parents understanding that he is part of each of them. So to speak negatively about the other parent is to undermine the identity and security of your own children.

4. Be a Role Model.

Remember that at all times your children are watching. Teenagers, especially, may see your unhappiness and wonder if happy relationships are possible. This is your chance to show your children that although your relationship with the other parent has ended, your potential for happiness has not ended. And, when the time has come to start dating again, you have the opportunity to show them what a good, strong, happy relationship is like.

Separating from the other parent of your children is never an easy thing for anyone involved. It may be a challenging, emotional, and psychological journey for families to undergo, but during and after the divorce, this is the time to show your children how to be happy.
— it takes a lot of work and focused effort, but the benefits to you and your children are well worth it.

Filed Under: Co-parenting, feature1, Uncategorized Tagged With: children, co-parenting, custody, divorce, separation, therapy

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