Problem: Narcissists Don’t Understand Boundaries.
What should you do when your ex comes to pick up the kids and screams curse words in front of your children and the neighborhood? You may be divorced, but you feel defenselessness to these outbursts.
Solution: Set Your Boundaries — and stick to them.
Make it clear that behavior like that won’t fly on your turf, Narcissists don’t usually like having others set boundaries on them but this is a must as you co-parent to protect yourself and the kids. The key to making boundaries work is to stick to them. It may mean hanging up the phone, walking away, closing doors or driving away to enforce your limits. Setting boundaries does not have to be done in a hostile manner; with practice, patience, and restraint it can be done with courtesy.