Tell Your Child First
Were you thinking of telling your child’s teacher about your divorce before telling your child? Bad idea.
Here’s an example of how not telling your child first could backfire:
On Friday afternoon when you’re picking your child up from school you mention to the teacher that you’re getting divorced and that you’ll be telling your child that weekend. However, the weekend flies by and there is never a good opportunity for the conversation so you and your soon to be ex decide to wait. Monday morning rolls around, you’ve forgotten to tell the teacher that the conversation didn’t happen as planned or perhaps you sent the teacher an email but they haven’t checked it. First thing that morning the teacher pulls your child aside and says, “I know this must difficult for you. I remember when my mom and dad split up and I was in sixth grade…”
No one wants their child to hear their parents are getting divorced from someone else.
Once you have told your child, you may decide to wait a couple of weeks before notifying school. This will give you the opportunity to see how they are coping and then when you do speak to the teacher you can start the conversation with, “I’ve been wondering if you’ve noticed any changes in my child’s behavior recently…”